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Kyo's take on Love and Marriage

Kera: First of all, tell us about a Valentine's memory.
Kyo: I'm not given chocolate and things like that very often? Um,
one time I was given homemade chocolate. The person was standing
right there and told me "Eat it," and I ate it, but it wasn't sweet,
it tasted really terrible. At that time, I couldn't say the truth-
"It's terrible," and when I got home, I threw the chocolate away.
Basically, I like sweet things, but when I'm on tour or on a
diet and I receive sweets, it makes me sick.
Also, my birthday is February 16th. It's annoying when I get
one present for both my birthday and Valentine's Day. If a holiday
follows a Sunday, does this person get only one day off!?
Kera: (Laughs) How would you like to be told by someone that they
love you?
Kyo: I would like them to say it mixing dialects. "I like you" or
something. I want them to say it in a way I've never heard before.
Kera: On the other hand, what about when you tell someone?
Kyo: If I try to do it, well, I just can't budge- absolutely not!
Even if I think, "I want to try and talk to that girl," I'm not able
to do that.
Kera: That's to say, the other person must come and talk to you?
Kyo: I don't meet anyone by that technique. I just let time pass me
by without making a move (laughs). I'm very pessimistic, so if I talk
to a girl, and she is cold to me, it wounds me 5 times worse than it
would other people. That's why the other person doesn't even approach
me!
Most people will take that chance many times [of approaching
someone they like], but in my case, I try to avoid being hurt. It's a
problem of pride!
Kera: Conversely, if you are approached by a girl you don't like
very much, what would you do?
Kyo: I would be direct about it. "You are gross!" or something like
that [ It's not so mean when Kyo says this in Japanese,
but "gross" is the best word I could come up with. ] My idea is sort of
like "you make me feel uncomfortable". For me, `live honestly' is my
motto. When you like someone, you are not supposed to mind that
person's bad points, but I won't do that. I hate the things I hate.
For me, no matter how ideal a girl may be, if I come home and she's
raising cockroaches, that's horrible, isn't it?
Kera: That kind of girl doesn't exist (laughs). When you meet, what
type of girl do you like? A focused girl? A girl who likes to talk?
Kyo: All different types. All kinds, from easygoing to cheerful. Oh,
but a harsh person would be bad. I have a strong ego, so if the girl
is harsh, won't it be like a sword striking a sword? That would
bother me.
Kera: Is there a type of person, about whom you say, for some
reason, "I'm attracted to this kind of person"?
Kyo: If she has a really good personality, isn't any type OK? If I'm
having a conversation, and I have some standard [to judge girls by],
and the girl's face isn't "the right type", I don't think I would
want to talk to her. ?Oh, but I'm attracted to a person who is
considerate and observant.
Kera: Do you mean a person who will sew a button on right after it
has fallen off?
Kyo: And also, wouldn't a person who does that without saying
anything about it be nice? I grew up in Kyoto, so I have some old
fashioned ideas. As a specific example, I don't want a girl to walk
in front of me.
Kera: Are your ideals high?
Kyo: I guess they are high.
Kera: For you, Kyo-san, is love not a very important thing [in a
relationship].
Kyo: No, if there is no love, it's boring and it would upset me. But
love is great (laughs).
Kera: Do you mean there's a connection between love and a desire to
create?
Kyo: That's right! That energy [from love] breathes life into what I
create.
Kera: When your emotions are stirred up by love, do you think you
could write a love song?
Kyo: I don't want to do that sort of thing. "I am happy, so I will
try my best at work," or this kind of feeling is what I would think.
Kera: OK then, Kyo-san, what is your ideal relationship with a girl
like?
Kyo: If I'm riding the train, I would like it if we could say bad
things together about the other passengers. Things like "That
person's T-shirt is tacky". While we're riding, until we get off,
we'll continue to say these kinds of bad things. In contrast to that,
I don't like a girl who would say, "It's bad to say things like
that". On the other hand, I want her to follow my lead, so we can act
together.
For example, if I say, "That person is bald!" the girl would
go right up next to him, hanging on to the strap, and say "He's
bald!!" (laughs). A girl who did that for me as I am thinking "I want
to get off" would be the best.
And if she also doesn't walk in front of me- well, if that
girl exists, I'll try hard to please her! I can't even imagine if
someone were to do such a superb thing for me?
Kera: Would you end up telling her? [tk: I thing she means would Kyo
tell the girl that she is wonderful].
Kyo: Yeah, probably.
Kera: What about your ideal love? Do you want to be together all the
time, or do you not think about this?
Kyo: My personal time is important to me. When I'm alone my work
(=band) comes before everything else. Since a while ago, when I meet
girl, I say to her "Work is the most important thing to me, so you
won't be the most important". It's hopeless if she doesn't
understand that. If I'm writing a song and a girl calls and
says "Whacha doing?" I'll think "Whaaaat? (angry)". I think I would
make a tight fist. It's that I hate interruptions.
Kera: And lastly, what are your thoughts on marriage?
Kyo: Marriage, yeah; isn't that an issue concerning the other
person's feelings? About things like the wedding and the reception,
it's not necessary to have many people attend. I would like to be
married at a temple. There would be a 2 o'clock mokutou [ silent
prayer]. Isn't that tasteful!
And there's no need to wear wedding clothes either. If your
everyday clothes are neat, that's fine, I think. Some people
say, "The ceremony has to be at a church" and "You need to wear a
wedding dress"- I hate people who are bound by conventions.
Kera: Certainly, it seems it's not necessary to worry about clothes.
Kyo: But if you want to look pretty? How about blue fish? Ocean fish is pretty, isn't it? It would be nice if you hollow out the inside and wear that. It's certainly pretty, and it's blue!
Well, if just fish doesn't cut it, wouldn't it be nice if you put on
a flower pattern badge (laughs).
Kera: That's absolutely a joke (laughs).
Kyo: No, thereabouts, if I see something flying by, I'll
say "Really?" (breaks into laughter)